Health & Fitness 'I cry like a child who has fallen and needs their parent but nobody is coming' - dad's powerful letter on mental health

15:15  15 may  2018
15:15  15 may  2018 Source:   independent.ie

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Stock image © Provided by Irish Independent Stock image The man, who has chosen not to be publicly identified, wrote an open letter to The Ryan Tubridy Show on RTE Radio One this morning saying that he feels he has to hide his mental health problems and doesn't think he can tell anyone that he is struggling.

The listener said he feels like a young child needing their parent when he finds himself crying alone in his car but that none of his loved ones realise what he is going through.

He said that he has contemplated taking his own life but is now "fighting" to stay alive, he is urging anyone who suspects someone might be experiencing suicidal thoughts to reach out and offer them support.

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He said that he was prompted to write the letter after completing a Darkness Into Light walk on Saturday morning (May 12), the tenth annual flagship fundraising event for Pieta House, which promotes suicide prevention and the stigma around getting help.

  'I cry like a child who has fallen and needs their parent but nobody is coming' - dad's powerful letter on mental health © Getty Read the entirety of his letter below:

A while ago a group of friends said they were going to do the Darkness Into Light walk and asked me did I want to come along, early start they said but we said it would be a bit of craic and we all agreed we'd go along.

I went home and logged onto the website, gave my name and picked the venue, then came the questions, generally asking who do I walk for.

When I said I walk for myself they asked why do I walk for myself and I said I'm struggling now.

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Two simple questions that scratched the surface, the tip of the iceberg that couldn't even begin to do justice of what lies beneath.

The truth is I am destroyed by depression and once again find myself considering suicide.

Why do I walk? I walk for myself, out of the vague hope that something will happen to change how I feel, I walk because I'm a man in my early forties with a beautiful wife and two young children and I will do very well to survive this period of my life.

  'I cry like a child who has fallen and needs their parent but nobody is coming' - dad's powerful letter on mental health © Getty I walk because I desperately need someone to help me, it's the same reason I find myself writing this.

How did I come to this, looking back I think I have struggled with some form of depression for years but could always hide it by putting on a brave face and getting on with things.

I think over a period of a month some years ago following a relatively minor setback at work, depression got a grip of me and hasn't let go since.

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Parents who constantly micromanage deprive their children of free will and prevent them from I had an inkling that you were perhaps an only child who had parents from large families. Nobody was born, even if it was a kid of a Billionaire, as perfect. Even the parents of the author, I know, were not.

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What does it feel like to be depressed to the point of suicide? There are no words really, it's like an excruciating pain, it's not physical but it's excruciating nonetheless.

24 hours a day, seven days a week, no escape, no relief, no pain medicine available and this is coupled with the embarrassment that you feel you need to hide the pain inside and you feel nothing good applies to you.

You see strangers walking down the street and you're so envious because they look like they feel okay.

You leave for work 15 minutes earlier in the morning because you know you are going to spend this time pulled in at the side of the road crying like a four year old child who has fallen and hurt their knee, waiting for a parent to come and help you up but nobody is going to come and help you up because no one knows you're there.

There is no escape, no relief, nothing that can be done and no one in the world is the same as you.

Wouldn't it be great to be gone? Forgotten about, to dispose of yourself, all of the pain would be over.

  'I cry like a child who has fallen and needs their parent but nobody is coming' - dad's powerful letter on mental health © Getty So, can anything be done? I believe yes, I don't believe that anybody wants to die by suicide, they just want the pain to go away, that's my experience anyway.

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Yes of course they are, they have feelings and from their heart flows the same blood as ours, they breathe, feel, laugh and cry just like us and need warmth, care and, above all, love. When we have good mental health , we like ourselves and we accept ourselves as we are.

Pictures posted on the Darkness Into Light website, people holding photos of loved ones who died by suicide, all of them smiling, look healthy, happy - what a change it must have been in the end, each and every one of them backed into a corner by their non-thinking mind that persuaded them against their will that they were making the correct decision, their last decision.

It'll happen again today and tomorrow and the day after, if you know or suspect someone is struggling, don't wait or be shy, don't have any regrets, if you suspect something is wrong tell them you're there for them.

Tell them they can tell you as much or as little as they want about their situation and you will be there and respect them and not judge.

Tell them you are not depressed and you are willing and ready to take control and help them until they get back on their feet.

Tell them the cavalry has arrived - don't live to regret doing nothing.

As for me, today I am fighting and I am putting this down on paper, I don't know what use it will do but it's the only plan I have at the minute.

Will the cavalry show up to help me, I don't know, today I am fighting but as for tomorrow, we'll see.

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Pieta House offer a suicide bereavement liaison service and the freecall 24/7 suicide helpline at 1800 247 247.

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The Samaritans offer support and advice to people feeling suicidal or vulnerable 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

Their website is http://www.samaritans.org, email address jo@samaritans.org or call free on 116 123. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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